I thought it would be helpful to offer one potential method of really becoming aware of the connection we have with our higher self. We can use this method to receive guidance on decisions we might be looking to make.
Being aware of the labels and definitions we put on things and ourselves is a big first step in become aware of the mind and ego. Why do I bring this up? Mainly because these states of consciousness, mind and ego, are what we are most often engaged in if we are “out of touch” throughout the day. By becoming aware of this, we create a reference point of what the mind feels like compared to what no-mind feels like.
Here is one method you can use to get a connection with your higher self to ask for guidance or potential steps forward if you are faced with a decision. Start by relaxing and taking some deep breaths in and out to clear your mind as best as possible. Focusing on breathing works very well when trying to slow the mind down. Alternatively you can stare at a candle flame if you prefer a visual. Let any thoughts that might come into the mind just float away as you continue to breathe, this is done by allowing the thoughts to go and not paying attention to them. After about maybe 1 – 2 minutes of breathing and quieting the mind, you should begin to feel a little more relaxed and in the moment. This is an important space to be in for the exercise. Next put your fingers or hand on your sternum area (heart chakra) and turn your attention to feeling. By placing our hands over our chest, we tend to focus more heavily on the area over our heart chakra due to the physical connection we feel with our hands. I have found that this helps in discerning our intuition which can often be felt through the heart chakra area.
From here, you can begin asking some questions and feeling for your answers. Try not to get too concerned with what it should feel like, whether you should hear anything or see anything. The most important thing here is we are learning and developing our innate intuition skills and figuring out what works best for us. After you have asked a question, usually the very first answer that comes to your awareness is your higher self. Whatever comes after is generally the mind work that starts when the ego begins the doubt games it often likes to play with. “That can’t be it” it often says.
It is best to do this exercise with no expectation for results. Having expectation can often cloud the experience and get us waiting or looking for something to heavily. This method can take some practice to discern between mind and higher self, but remember to not overcomplicate the process with doubt. As you practice more and more, the connection builds much like a muscle does and a simple breath in and out usually connects you very quickly. Have fun with it and don’t get too frustrated, be at peace and have patience.
You can also use this method to simply enjoy some quiet time or even step into a creative space. No question and answer necessary. Feel free to share your thoughts and results below!