Attraction isn’t only about looks. It’s about a certain primal magnetism…we can be physically attracted to someone, but we are more often drawn to their confidence, passion and personality. Being attractive is about more than just appearance.
1. BE ENTERTAINING
Boredom is not an emotional state that the brain handles well. It is wired to crave novelty, engagement, and fulfillment – a fact that is easily observed during infancy.
If we’re honest, we can confidently state that some people are more boring than others – but it isn’t that simple. Boredom is a relative term; some are bored by sports, others entranced; some are disengaged with politics, others volunteer…and so on.
2. ACT QUICKLY
Dr. John Medina – a molecular biologist and author of Brain Rules – discovered that humans have a shorter attention span than a GOLDFISH: less than eight seconds to be exact.
As we’ve already noted, the human brain requires novelty to invoke feelings of attraction; turns out that attraction also requires an expeditious first impression. Therefore, if we have any intention of attracting that gentleman or gentlewoman, it behooves us to act quickly.
3. USE “OPEN” BODY LANGUAGE
Research shows that body language is among the most important drivers of attraction. More specifically, positioning the body to convey “openness’ is among the most important drivers of attraction.
Open body language is important because it physically communicates availability. Oppositely, “closed off” body language – crossing arms, clutching a cellphone, turning away – are indications of an unavailable person. So, remain upright with your upper body and act natural. Additionally, keep both hands visible and use them freely when communicating.
4. SMILE OFTEN
While it’s true that being told to “smile more” is incredibly annoying – not to mention, rude – the act of smiling is a scientifically-valid attraction trigger.
Researchers at the University of Bern examined this relationship between attraction and smiling in two different experiments. During the first (and most telling) experiment, participants were shown a series of photographs consisting of alternating expressions of outward happiness (smiling), along with other varying expressions. The participants were then asked to gauge the relative attractiveness of the photographs.
5. HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR
Here’s a quick diversion from the scientific. Ask a close female friend if they’ve seen any Mike Myers or Jim Carrey films (e.g. the “Austin Powers” or “Ace Ventura” series). If so, ask them if they found Myers’ or Carrey’s characters to be attractive.
If you’re uncomfortable doing this, YouTube Myers or Carrey movie clips and sift through the comments – many women find both men to be highly attractive.